Feminist Discontentment

David Torso

The “Problem That Has No Name” was described by Betty Friedan in the beginning of her book The Feminine Mystique’:  The problem lay buried, unspoken, for many years in the minds of American women. It was a strange stirring, a sense of dissatisfaction, a yearning [that is, a longing] that women suffered in the middle of the 20th century in the United States. Each suburban [house]wife struggled with it alone. As she made the beds, shopped for groceries … she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question — “Is this all?”

The driving force behind Feminism, is female discontentment.  Specifically discontentment with men, and with women’s God ordained role of serving men, who are the image and glory of God.(1 Corinthians 11:7)  If only Eve could have been content in a sinless paradise, with a perfect sinless man, made by God Himself, with no rules, except one.  But no!  The malcontent Eve aspired to be as a god also.(Genesis 3:5)  Today’s destructive Feminism is founded upon Satan’s huge lie that men and women are equal, and both in God’s image.  And then building upon that whopper of a lie, Feminism falsely assumes that just as the woman was created to be a help meet for the man, that the man must then also have been created as a help meet for the woman.

Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

The Old English word “meet”, in that usage, is defined as ~ to fulfill or to satisfy.

As Genesis 2:18 explains the woman was created to be a help to fulfill or satisfy the man.  And when a woman is correctly fulfilling her God ordained role, she will be helping and fulfilling and satisfying her husband.  Because women were created to be helpers who are able to fulfill or satisfy a man’s earthly needs, men consequently have an inclination to wrongly idolize and worship women.  But God explains clearly that men were not created for women:

1 Corinthians 11:7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.  8 For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.  9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

So, who is supposed to fulfill the woman?

Women are supposed to find their own fulfillment and contentment in obeying God and fulfilling their created purpose.   They should be taught to seek contentment in serving their own husbands and raising their own children, if they are blessed with them.   Most of the other things that women today are encouraged to seek fulfillment doing, are just wrong.  They only serve to distract a woman from her true purpose and to create discontentment with her highest calling, to serve and satisfy her husband.

Women’s discontentment is “the fruit” of believing lies.  The truth, is what can truly set women free of discontentment, while they are mindful of the truth.  Women were raised to have false expectations.  They were raised to think of themselves as equal or nearly equal to males.  They were raised to expect their husbands to consult them and to give equal or nearly equal weight to their differing viewpoints.  Nowhere in the Bible is a husband told to get direction from his wife.  Not even from the unachievably ideal Proverbs 31 woman, who “openeth her mouth with wisdom”.  And that is because God actually doesn’t intend for men to hearken unto their wives, as Adam did, but to serve God, with all their heart, with all their soul, and with their entire mind.  The only exception I see in the Bible, is that the husband, by divine covenant, is currently given bodily to his wife, just as she is now owned by him, the two having been united as one flesh by God through sexual union, and the husband is required to give her wholesome sex in compliance with his wife’s reasonable desires.(1 Corinthians 7:2-5)  Otherwise, men have God given dominion over all of creation including womankind which God made for man and gave to man.

Men are gods.

Men are the image and glory of God, Adam was graven by God out of this earth, into God’s own likeness, and God breathed His own essence into the man.  Adam was truly a son of God.(Luke 3:38)  Our jealous God has commanded that no other graven images of gods are allowed.(Leviticus 26:1)  For the sons of Adam truly are God’s sons, and are even repeatedly called gods, by God Himself.(Psalm 82:6-7 & John 10:34-36)  And we know that husbands are to image Jesus Christ, who is God, while wives image the wayward church in need of the constant washing by their “god”, with God’s word, so that husbands, just like Christ, are to act as saviors.  Men are not mere subjects called to lay down their lives at the capricious whims of their wives.  Oh far from it!  Men are the image of God, giving their lives, as needed, for the salvation of their wives, who are symbolically their bodies, just like the church is Christ’s body.(Ephesians 5:22-27)

So are women to idolize their husbands?

Yes!  In fact, wives are commanded to reverence their husbands.(Ephesians 5:33)  God wouldn’t have made husbands to share his image and glory, if He didn’t want husbands to be worthy of reverence also.  And men of God should honor each other.(Romans 12:10)  The Bible goes so far as to say that holy women will call their husbands, “lord”.

1 Peter 3:5 (AMPC)  For it was thus that the pious women of old who hoped in God were [accustomed] to beautify themselves and were submissive to their husbands [adapting themselves to them as themselves secondary and dependent upon them].  6 It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham [following his guidance and acknowledging his headship over her by] calling him lord (master, leader, authority). And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you [not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you].

U mad girl?

Does it bother you that I say husbands are gods, sons of God, images of God, to be called lord?  Those are God’s words describing men and husbands, and God should know, since He created us all.   Although your husband was not created for you, or to satisfy you, you should be thrilled down to the tips of your toes to have a husband.   And you should be curling your toes in anticipation of the next time you can join in flesh with your god of flesh, your lord, your likeness of the Most High God.

However most women are deceived, they don’t realize their husband has an allotted portion of divine glory, and is their high priest who represents them before God.  They foolishly think they are their husband’s equal, or even his better.  And consequently they do not look up to him, and do not reverence him, or idolize him by submitting unto him, as unto the Lord.  In fact, many wives don’t even want their husbands.  They deny them sex, and wish they had some other husband.

Discontentment comes because of whoring hearts.

Ezekiel 16:32 You unfaithful wife! You desire strangers instead of your husband.

Tertullian wrote to women: And do you not know that you are Eve?  The sentence of God on this sex of yours lives in this age: the guilt must of necessity live too.  You are the devil’s gateway; you are the unsealer of that (forbidden) tree: you are the first deserter of the divine law: you are she who persuaded him whom the devil was not valiant enough to attack. You destroyed so easily God’s image, man.  Because of the death you merited, even the Son of God had to die.

Yes, women are natural defilers,(Revelation 14:4) full of usurping, periodically unclean, certainly not an image of deity, they are gullible, fickle, and frail, full of vainglory and envious of men’s divine image and headship.  Their contempt for their husbands is unfitting, irreverent, and blasphemes God’s word.(Titus 2:4-5)  Women lead men astray, misusing the gifts God gave women to help men, to ensnare men and distract them from their divine mission instead.  Woe to you women who haven’t the sense to adorn yourselves with quietness and shamefacedness.(1 Timothy 2:9-15)  No woman deserves a savior, a Christ figure, a husband who stoops to love them in spite of their wretched selfishness, irreverence, and usurping nature.

Unmerited favor

And yet God has made women joint heirs of His grace with men.  And men, like God, show women the grace of joining down onto them, providing for their care and protection, and shepherding their wives through all their objectionable moods.

Matthew 19:10 (AMPC) The disciples said to Him, If the case of a man with his wife is like this, it is neither profitable nor advisable to marry.

Women truly are the beneficiaries of men’s good graces, and of men’s divine qualities.  I haven’t told the half of the disparity between women and men in this brief post, yet if men and women would even come to realize the truth that I have shared, women could see that they have every reason to be content just having any husband, much less to have gotten one of their own choosing.  Might their father have picked a better husband for them?  Most probably!   But the husband they chose, is certainly deserving of their reverence, their obedience, their honor, their body, their thoughts, and their devotion.

The “problem with no name” is Feminist discontentment.  The solution is for women to realize their husbands are the matchless image of God Most High, while they themselves are inferior vessels who bring trouble by their very nature, and that they should be quite content, even thrilled that they are consequently loved sacrificially, and were taken and possessed by a god of flesh, a son of God who stooped to share his life of divine glory, his divine mission, his earthly journey with them.  Taking on her troubles as his own, and struggling to cleanse her of her character flaws with daily instructions, and restraining himself by his godly grace and patience to forebear violent retribution amid her multitude of failings and her faithless actions.  Every wife is blessed to be so honored as to marry a glorious man made in the very image of God.

Help Me Put My Boys’ Home Back Together

A Threefold Cord of Masculinity

My boys were all smiles after finally pinning their father during a wrestling match.

I need your help!

I am trying to get my wife’s church to put some pressure on my wife to get her to attend some joint counselling to address her Intimacy-Anorexia and to try to reconcile our marriage and our boys’ home.  However, being a typical churchian cult of woman-worship, it is going to take some serious effort to get them to ask my wife to submit to her husband and submit to getting the treatment she needs.  She, like a typical addict, is in denial about her behavioral addiction, and has been doing everything she can to avoid getting treatment to reverse the destruction her addiction has caused and the divorce it has led her to file.  There are other issues, with her spiritually, but I don’t think I’ll have any luck addressing them until she is free of the great bondage of the behavioral addiction that is blinding her to reality and keeping her emotionally and morally stunted.  I have tried addressing her spiritual issues in her current state and am not able to make any progress with her.  Currently she returns only evil for good and feels completely entitled to do so.  Her selfish insistence on staying in bondage to addiction is not fair to our boys who have seen their home and lives ripped apart, and are really suffering as a result of their broken home.

So, I have started a new website where I will be calling out my wife’s church, which has so far refused to do anything but cheer her on in her divorce.  At this point, I just have the first two posts up, but I will try to quickly get another 5 or so that I have planned written and up there in the next couple weeks.  Also I am going to publish them in a bit of an escalating fashion with the most damning posts coming towards the end of the posts that I currently have planned.  After those posts, I will make more geared towards teaching people what is wrong with churches like that, and how a church that follows God should act.  I haven’t heard of this being tried before, but I’m going to see if I can get my wife’s church to at least pretend to be God followers for a bit.  I have been warned that it is hard to shame whores, so I don’t know if I’ll be able to make my wife’s church behave any better, but at this point I’m about out of time and don’t see the cunt-court being likely to help me get my wife the help she needs to put our family back together in the best interest of the children.

The moderation at the other site will be different, in that I won’t be allowing trolls to participate, since my family is on the line.  But, for all of the rest of you, I could sure use your help, by visiting the new site and commenting, following the new blog to show your support and get notified of new posts, and contacting the church.  I have the churches contact info on the sidebar.  I expect if they respond back to you, it will be with lies and excuses, as it has been their pattern, just ignore their excuses, and take their slander with a grain of salt.  I’m sure my wife has told them lies, and they seem to really want to believe all women about everything.  Also, since they worship women, it would help if I also got a lot of participation from women, because that might give them the “moral backing” to hold one “goddess” accountable to scripture, if a bunch of other women are asking them to.

Please read the “My Marriage” post first, as it lays out the overall story.  Feel free to ask questions or leave comments here as well.  I gave those hirelings over 2 years to handle this privately, but they continually refused, so now I’ll be turning a light on those roaches and exposing their wickedness.  Help me stomp them!

God hears husbands!

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I was recently reminded of 1 Peter 3:7, a verse too often misused by Feminism’s enforcers to help subjugate husbands to their wives.  Often they might say something like, “husbands if you don’t hear your wife, God won’t hear you”.  But is that what saint Peter actually told us?  Does God really refuse to listen to the prayers of all husbands who are not tuned in to hearken unto the voices of their wives?

1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

The key misunderstanding is that the word “your” in that verse does not refer just to the husband.  But, because of an unfortunately ambiguous English translation, most people will initially read it that way, even though that seemingly puts the verse at odds with the uniform strict patriarchy that God prescribes throughout the rest of the Bible.

The Greek word for “your” (Strong’s 5216) which is pronounced hoo-mone in English, and is written ὑμῶν in Greek, is plural not singular. The husband and wife are to exist in perfect unity with the wife in full subjection to the husband in everything.(Ephesians 5:22-24) The principle is that if, through lack of knowledge, you don’t live in unity as heirs together of the grace of God, then your prayers together will be hindered.

Matthew Henry explained it this way over 300 years ago:
They are heirs together of the grace of life, of all the blessings of this life and another, and therefore should live peaceably and quietly one with another, and, if they do not, their prayers one with another and one for another will be hindered, so that often “you will not pray at all, or, if you do, you will pray with a discomposed ruffled mind, and so without success.”

Churchian female-supremacists naturally want to blame a husband for all of his wife’s sinful behavior and deceitfully construe the testing and hardship the husband endures against him, claiming his prayers go unanswered as confirming evidence of God’s displeasure with his treatment of his wife.  Don’t let woman-worshiping churchians twist this holy verse that states that one must realize that women are in fact weaker vessels yet still should be honored as co-recipients of God’s grace, lest your collective prayers be hindered, into something that turns God into the enforcer for their Feminist false teaching, into a God who won’t listen to any husband until they first hearken unto the voice of their gullible wife.

Genesis 3:17 And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;

The misuse of 1 Peter 3:7 is Satan’s same old plan for getting husbands to follow their easily misled wive’s leading, just like how Adam hearkened to and followed Eve’s leading and got the whole earth cursed by God.  We are to honor the fact that women are by their creation weaker vessels, but that even so they are also heirs together with men of the grace of life, and by handling them according to knowledge, we husbands will not foolishly antagonize our weaker halves and so hinder our united prayers together with them.

Matthew 18:20 For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.

1 John 5:13 These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.  14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:

Shaming: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Shame Beagle

Twere shame enough to shame thee, wert thou not shameless. ~ William Shakespeare

Shame (Noun) a painful emotion resulting from an awareness of having done something wrong, dishonorable, improper, unworthy, degrading, ridiculous, etc.
Shame (verb) To cause to feel shame.

Joseph Burgo Ph.D. said: Although many people use the two words “guilt” and “shame” interchangeably, from a psychological perspective, they actually refer to different experiences. … [Shame] reflects how we feel about ourselves and [guilt] involves awareness that our actions have injured someone else. … In other words, shame relates to self; guilt to others. I think it’s useful to preserve this distinction, even though the dictionary definitions often blur it. … Many people crippled by shame have very little capacity to feel guilt, for example. In order to feel guilt about the harm you may have done to somebody else, you must recognize him or her as a distinct individual, to begin with. Thus a person who struggles with separation and merger issues might not feel true guilt even if he or she were to use that word to describe a feeling. Many people who display narcissistic behavior often suffer from profound feelings of shame but have little authentic concern for other people; they don’t tend to feel genuinely guilty. The lack of empathy to be found in narcissistic personality disorder makes real guilt unlikely since guilt depends upon the ability to intuit how someone else might feel.

Neel Burton M.D. said: Embarrassment is the feeling of discomfort experienced when some aspect of ourselves is, or threatens to be, witnessed by or otherwise revealed to others, and we think that this revelation is likely to undermine the image of ourselves that we seek to project to those others. …

People with low self-esteem are more prone to shame, because, having a poor self-image, they are harsher upon themselves. In some cases, they may defend against shame with blame or contempt, often for the person who incited their shame. Ultimately, this is likely to lead to even deeper shame, and so to even lower self-esteem. While overwhelming shame can be destructive, mild or moderate shame is mostly a force for good, spurring us on to lead more ethical lives. …

Shame is ego dystonic, that is, in conflict with our self-image and the needs and goals of our ego, and high levels of shame are correlated with poor psychological functioning. In particular, eating disorders and many sexual disorders can largely be understood as disorders of shame, as can narcissism, which is sometimes thought of as a defense against shame. Guilt on the other hand is ego syntonic, that is, consistent with our self-image and the needs and goals of our ego, and, unless left to fester, is either unrelated or inversely correlated with poor psychological functioning.

Faced with the same set of circumstances, people with high self-esteem are more prone to guilt than to shame, and more likely to take corrective or redemptive action.

Sharkly B.S. says:  Recently I have kept running into the concept of shaming.  Most people seem to be very against shaming being done to them, but are quite ready to do it to their opponents.  Some people are against shaming entirely and seem to go to great lengths to shame those who are still shaming. 😉

But, does shaming have a positive purpose, and if so, why do some claim to be opposed to it?  One person claimed that shaming should not be used because it might drive someone “underground” or back in “the closet”.   However that might indeed be a very powerful reason to use it.

Are we ever to shame the wayward, or are we only to humor them?  Can you shame a person’s deeds without devaluing the person?  It has been said that if you attack someone’s due dignity, your relationship will suffer.  Is there a way to shame people without attacking their human dignity?  Should we even slave to keep close relations with the shameless?  Should our relationships be subject to some basic level of expectation?  Or is it imperative that everybody be nice, polite, and unconfrontational?  I hope, with this post, to spur contemplation of shaming, and to start a discussion on the appropriate and best uses of shaming.

It would seem obvious that if society is to be peacefully reformed, we will absolutely need shame, as a force for good, spurring us on to lead more ethical lives.  And even if you favor a violent revolution, won’t you still need shame to peaceably maintain your mores after you’ve installed them via gun barrel diplomacy?  What would a chaotic world without shame even look like, where everybody did what was right in their own eyes?

Virgin Imprinting

Where's the love

I have a topic that I’d like to discuss, and I’ll use myself as the example, because I haven’t heard any other discussion on the topic.  I was reading over at Σ Frame when the question of a virgin young man’s sexual compatibility with any potential wife came up.

I myself for whatever reason never worried about my sexual compatibility, so I would never have thought to bring the topic up.  Although I’m blessed, I presumed that, if a baby’s head can come out of a woman’s baby maker, I’m pretty certain my penis will fit in.  Now perhaps I’m not talking about the same aspect of sexual compatibility that was in question, but here is what happened to me.

The baseline.

Prior to marriage I had looked at pornography.  I found I liked breasts of all shapes and sizes, I really did like them all, whatever preferences I had were pretty minimal.  I also looked at vaginas, I found them interesting, while a little strange looking, but there too, I didn’t have any real strong preferences, except that they not be shaved bald and look just like a young child’s crotch.

I met my wife online, and was almost “in love” before I physically met her.  When I did first meet her I was pleasantly suprised, that although she didn’t look exactly like her profile picture, she actually looked better than her online photo.  Long story short – I fell in love, and married her.

I had never had sex until with my wife. When I first saw her breasts, I didn’t recall seeing many exactly like that, but I liked them.  And when I first saw her vagina, well, it was a vagina, as good as any other vagina.

Somehow I got imprinted.

Due to my wife’s intimacy-anorexia she intentionally distances me, she withholds sharing emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy as part of her behavioral addiction.  And so it was, that bereft of much sex with my wife, and let down by churches who refused to help, I turned back to pornography.   But, to my surprise, I didn’t want to see just any breasts like before.  I found myself looking for breasts that looked exactly like my wife’s breasts, and the more they looked like my wife’s breasts, the more I preferred them.  I also had grown to appreciate vaginas a lot more, but the absolute best vaginas looked exactly like my wife’s vagina.

I wasn’t intentionally trying to find models that looked like my wife, I just gradually came to notice that I now strongly preferred everything to look exactly like how she looked.  I now strongly prefer my wife’s size of nipples, the size and color of her areolas, the size and shape of her breasts.  I also strongly prefer the size, shape, color, and texture of her pussy lips.  I’m sorry, but I just do now.  Apparently I imprinted on her sexually, and she is now what I just strongly prefer.

Anyhow, I’m not sure how this happened.  I haven’t got the foggiest idea.  I’m not even sure why I imprinted.  Was it an act or blessing of God?  Is it natural?  Was it an act of will, that I chose to love her as she was, and it solidified?  Had I perchance been blessed to marry somebody perfectly matching some subconscious preferences that I had been previously unaware of?  Does this happen to others?  I don’t know.

It gets worse.

My wife got pregnant twice during our marriage, and as she first began exhibiting the look of pregnancy, I began to love that look.  I knew she was pregnant before she did.  One day she wondered aloud if she was possibly pregnant, and without even thinking I just blurted out, yes, your boobs have changed.  Anyhow, I began to love everything about the look of pregnancy as my wife exhibited it.  And perhaps thanks to powerful pregnancy hormones overpowering my wife’s intimacy-anorexia the last two trimesters of both my wife’s pregnancies were the most regular sex I ever got.  Anyhow, I sort of have a thing for pregnant women now, and I had never found them attractive before my wife first got pregnant.  But now they’re just radiant and sexy to me, and I don’t know how to make it stop.

The Marital Window of Opportunity

Derek Ramsey

Recently over at Boxer’s Blog, Derek Ramsey made the following (slightly edited) observations:

From statistics, we know that over half of people have lasting marriages.  The problem is that you can’t marry people who are already married, and presumably you don’t want to take the chance on a non-virgin.  By age 25, ~95% of women are not virgins (and most of the best are married).  You’ll have to find a quality wife before she is 25.  By the time you (or she) are ~32, your options become much more limited and your divorce risk steadily increases.  Thus, a man’s window of opportunity to find a quality wife is time-limited.

Please share your thoughts about this.

 

Natural Attraction

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Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said: It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suited to him.

Twice the Bible speaks of evil people as being “without natural affection”. But we are also warned to stay away from evil women:

Proverbs 23:27 For a whore is a deep ditch; and a strange woman is a narrow pit. 28 She also lieth in wait as for a prey, and increaseth the transgressors among men.

Proverbs 5:3 For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil;

I wonder if that last verse, or Proverbs 23:27 above, are sexual euphemisms?
So, what are we to do?

1Corinthians 7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

1Corinthians 7:28 But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.

Please share your thoughts on this subject.